I can’t go on without saying this:
there’s at least 5 people I can name who still think i’m transphobic (btw, i’m not). They actively dislike, if not hate me. And they mostly spread false information.
Every day, I think about these people. The fact that I caused these people to hate me, it f*cks with me. (I don’t curse, but that’s the only word for it.) I cannot get them out of my head.
How did this happen? How are we at a point as a community that it is acceptable to put your ideologies and beliefs over another person’s mental health? Did I cause this? Or did I just reveal what was already there? How did I make them hate me, and why haven’t we been reconciled yet?
Every single thing I do is for these people. I need to make them like me again. I need to stop the hate. I did this, and yet they refuse to let me fix it. They refuse to fix it.
I can’t solve this problem. I need to solve it. And at some point in the future, it will all fall down. Something is going to happen. I don’t know what to do.
It’s in my head. Chaos is in my head. These people are in my head. The hate is in my head.
Discord messages fly through my mind, people making fun of me, people unfollowing me, people saying “any reasonable person would disagree with oren,” people insulting me.
Please help.
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if you think that your opinions would still hurt people, its best not to share them, but unless you do share them/show that you’ve changed, other people don’t have to interact with you. it’s a fine balance
obviously they felt upset/hurt by what you said, right? it’s not a disagreement over an economic system, it’s over a more personal identity-based one, which most people would feel directly opposes them being allowed to be themselves 
for example, if i say my religion is that people who are named Oren have committed a sin, it is reasonable people named Oren aren’t going to want to be my friend/associate with me.
directly opposes them being allowed to be themselves
but that’s not what I believe! They exaggerate it to seem like that. But it’s not. I support you doing whatever you want.
In fact, I support LGBTQ rights because more freedom is (almost) always a good thing. I’m a libertarian (not the Libertarian party), so I support personal freedom above my own convictions.
I believe that you should do whatever you want. Whether I support you is another thing. So I allow you to be yourself.
*whatever you want as long as it doesn’t harm other people or stop them from exercising the same rights as you