I can’t act like I do irl on this site because everyone hates it. Like, even when I’m asking for clarification, people think i’m trying to start a flame war.
I’m just a curious person, and when something seems weird or off, I call it out. Is that not allowed?
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It does seem like you were jumping to conclusions or making statements as though they were facts, yes
But they are also responsible for continuing an argument to some extent…
In general, both people are to blame in an argument if neither side is open to listening. Like from what I’ve heard, the term POC (people of color) has been used to describe people of Asian descent, but it would’ve been better if either side of the argument was more open to hearing the other side, not proving them wrong. Figure out why they think what they think and introduce your perspective.
it’s hard for me because some people (i’m just gonna say it. ally is one of them) aren’t willing to consider that I could possibly be right. This, obviously, makes me act different to them. But I try.
And of course it’s not all their fault. I do a lot of wrong things. I need to work on not being such a teenager (aka not be so inclined to try to prove someone wrong/make fun of them).
Then yes, that’s their problem if a person is completely unopen to the idea that you’re correct. Both sides are entitled to the possibility of being “right”. But an argument shouldn’t be based around that, it should be about reaching an understanding. Rather than either side proving the other wrong, there should be no “wrong” or “right”; there should only be “what I think” and “what you think” and seeing what parts you agree/disagree with or have in common.
Because if neither side thinks they’re wrong, nothing is being done if both sides are trying to prove the other wrong. Because neither will budge.
Yea, I hope people in general understand that
There is just this idea that traditional arguments have any value, which in most cases, they don’t. Both sides are just barking at each other and both sides are afraid of being wrong, so they never surrender. You can’t convince someone they’re wrong, you can only persuade them to accept that you’re right. But that’s their choice. And placing significance in what others do rather than what you have control over ends up with frustration.
I disengage from any places that I don’t have any real power in, because it’s fruitless to indulge in something I have no control over.