I can’t go on without saying this:
there’s at least 5 people I can name who still think i’m transphobic (btw, i’m not). They actively dislike, if not hate me. And they mostly spread false information.
Every day, I think about these people. The fact that I caused these people to hate me, it f*cks with me. (I don’t curse, but that’s the only word for it.) I cannot get them out of my head.
How did this happen? How are we at a point as a community that it is acceptable to put your ideologies and beliefs over another person’s mental health? Did I cause this? Or did I just reveal what was already there? How did I make them hate me, and why haven’t we been reconciled yet?
Every single thing I do is for these people. I need to make them like me again. I need to stop the hate. I did this, and yet they refuse to let me fix it. They refuse to fix it.
I can’t solve this problem. I need to solve it. And at some point in the future, it will all fall down. Something is going to happen. I don’t know what to do.
It’s in my head. Chaos is in my head. These people are in my head. The hate is in my head.
Discord messages fly through my mind, people making fun of me, people unfollowing me, people saying “any reasonable person would disagree with oren,” people insulting me.
Please help.
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the best thing to do (usually) is to ignore them and remember that they don’t actually know you (this is the internet!). but if its repeated/still happening, you should block whoever’s still doing it (if you can). disagreeing with someone’s takes is perfectly fine, but actively hating them is something else. 
typically what those people should do if they don’t believe you can change / think that you haven’t changed is to block/ignore you, rather than spread hate.
I genuinely want these people to like me. I want to be universally liked (and I try to be likeable!).
I really care about being friendly a lot more than having my opinions out there.
to them, if you put the words of a book from 1000s of years ago (much of it written by biased, flawed, imperfect humans like ourselves) above the experiences and feelings of living human beings today, people are bound to feel hurt.
it’s hard for people to interact with someone who they know thinks they are committing a sin. in addition, i just wanted to say that the bible was written at a different time and many of its commandments and writings are no longer applicable to modern life/society and what we currently believe is acceptable (whipping people, slavery, etc.), and while I don’t support starting flamewars/creating hate over other’s opinions 
, I feel like you’re going to have to accept that not everyone is going to like you with something like this unless you try to reach out to them or understand them before having settled beliefs like that
Please realise that I believe most people on this website do like you, its only a few stubborn people who have you forever on the dislike setting, and I don’t think that will change unless you apoligise for the posts that they were offended by, although you shouldn’t change your views to make others happy.
I saw you crossed out your infamous LGBTQ+ post, and that you have different views now. Maybe you could post them and see if people change their minds?
if you think that your opinions would still hurt people, its best not to share them, but unless you do share them/show that you’ve changed, other people don’t have to interact with you. it’s a fine balance
you have the right to not get repeated hate messages, but other people have the right not to interact with you. (as long as they’re not causing hate). sometimes you have to accept that some people aren’t going to be your best friend (trust me this won’t be the last time 
).
I know but look at this stuff:
I usually agree with Micah, but what?? I’m not trying to force them on others (even other people agree: https://wasteof.money/posts/631e2fe80b8dc7e72762e549#comments-631f52f5acf05101402f3ca5)
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well did you ever specifically say that you believe LGBTQ+ people should be allowed to be themselves? when you say you have a certain opinion, you should make it clear where your boundaries lie, people can’t be expected to “assume” what you mean. even if you do, people don’t have to want to interact with you . i do agree that after a certain point, people should stop bringing it up, though.
the other thing about religion is that it is usually what you believe to be the truth. if I say that I deeply believe in something that other people think is incorrect, it is inherently a political statement. just like LGBTQ+ people have every right to be mad at Obama for originally saying that he believed gay marriage was “less holy”.
to many people, if you hold something about other people (that doesn’t affect/harm you or anybody else) as one of your core, fundamental beliefs, they see it as you saying that (because most people think their religion is the best) that you think that in an ideal world (where everybody believes the same thing you do) that you wouldn’t want them to be themselves.
Its just a fact that nobody can be universally liked, no matter who you are and what you do. Try to be liked by people who can like you, but remember to be yourself over what other people like (as long as you’re being a good person).
You’re not a bad person Oren, I hope that you can overcome these people or the situation improves.